効率的な仕事 Efficient work

Expectation control toward others

A capable person doesn’t expect anything from others.

Because he knows that too much expectation will destroy him.

Of course, he also doesn’t expect not only others but himself.

He doesn’t tell others that he doesn’t expect others and cheer them up.

He only thinks internally that he is lucky if others do it right.

Because the expectation will easily change into dependence, and depending on others sometimes becomes a risk to them.

Moreover, the expectation changes into irritation and hatred if others betray their expectations.

So, a capable person never expects anything from others.

Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean “He doesn’t take care of others”.

He takes care of their team member very well.

But he never expects anything from the team member.

He knows the members don’t behave he want the members to do.

To be free from the minus emotions such as “I was betrayed” or “It’s society’s fault”, a person good at work is rational and not emotional but gentle to others.

Especially, he avoids expectations that could easily create trouble such as below.

1. The expectation that “if we talk, we’ll understand each other.

No matter how much a capable person tell the team member, he can’t tell the team member everything.

No matter how much the team member listen to him, they can’t understand what he thinks perfectly.

So the capable person doesn’t expect the team member the perfect work and they prepare to cover it.

2. The expectation that “others will reach out to you if you’re in trouble.

Others “may” help you.

But if you have expectations, you gradually become distorted into “people should” help those in need.

This can cause you to hold a grudge against others and the world.

However, if you avoid this expectation, you can prepare to recover by yourself and can appreciate the person who helps you from the bottom of your heart.

The expectation that “I’m a capable person”

The most important thing is not to have the expectation that “I’m a capable person”.

Most of the time, it’s a misconception, and even if there is a “somewhat better part”, it rarely extends to all talents.

Moreover, the assumption that you are superior can easily lead to arrogance.

Therefore, a capable person is always humble and keeps trying to improve themselves.

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shiki0405
5年間務めた社員4,000人の大企業→社員80人のベンチャー→アパレル会社のIT部門へ転職。職種はIT営業→ITコンサル。仕事を効率的に進めるためのExcel・PPT術、人とのかかわり方を発信します。 子どもが最近生まれたので、妻との夫婦関係や子育てで思うことも併せて。 A large company with 4,000 employees for 5 years -> a venture company with 80 employees -> IT department of an apparel company. My job title was IT sales and then IT consulting. I provide Excel and PPT skills and how to interact with people so that you can work more efficiently. Since my child was recently born, I also have some thoughts about my marital relationship with my wife and parenting.