A capable person doesn’t expect anything from others.
Because he knows that too much expectation will destroy him.
Of course, he also doesn’t expect not only others but himself.
He doesn’t tell others that he doesn’t expect others and cheer them up.
He only thinks internally that he is lucky if others do it right.
Because the expectation will easily change into dependence, and depending on others sometimes becomes a risk to them.
Moreover, the expectation changes into irritation and hatred if others betray their expectations.
So, a capable person never expects anything from others.
Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean “He doesn’t take care of others”.
He takes care of their team member very well.
But he never expects anything from the team member.
He knows the members don’t behave he want the members to do.
To be free from the minus emotions such as “I was betrayed” or “It’s society’s fault”, a person good at work is rational and not emotional but gentle to others.
Especially, he avoids expectations that could easily create trouble such as below.
1. The expectation that “if we talk, we’ll understand each other.
No matter how much a capable person tell the team member, he can’t tell the team member everything.
No matter how much the team member listen to him, they can’t understand what he thinks perfectly.
So the capable person doesn’t expect the team member the perfect work and they prepare to cover it.
2. The expectation that “others will reach out to you if you’re in trouble.
Others “may” help you.
But if you have expectations, you gradually become distorted into “people should” help those in need.
This can cause you to hold a grudge against others and the world.
However, if you avoid this expectation, you can prepare to recover by yourself and can appreciate the person who helps you from the bottom of your heart.
The expectation that “I’m a capable person”
The most important thing is not to have the expectation that “I’m a capable person”.
Most of the time, it’s a misconception, and even if there is a “somewhat better part”, it rarely extends to all talents.
Moreover, the assumption that you are superior can easily lead to arrogance.
Therefore, a capable person is always humble and keeps trying to improve themselves.